A trip to Hobby Lobby, an hourglass, and a new perspective…

So, last weekend, I took Olivia to Hobby Lobby so she could  get out of the house for a little bit and take her mind off of Lupus for a minute or two. She saw  this  pretty hourglass on one of the shelves and asked if she could get it. img_1569 I put it in the carriage and, honestly, didn’t think about it again until this morning. Let me explain.  I went up to her room to put some laundry away after I took her and Grayson to school.  When I glanced up at her bureau, I saw the top half of the glass filled with sand.  I remembered that Olivia had flipped it before she left for school because the top was empty.  Then, I looked beyond the glass to the beautiful Precious Moments figurines that my sister Lisa buys for all of the children each year on their birthday.  Olivia’s train is long at 13.  I remember opening each one like it was yesterday.  In the midst of my daydream, my eye caught the other bureau in the room…the one with this collage on top of it…img_1570

It’s almost as if my entire undergraduate college degree sprang to life and began to mock me. (I majored in English and now the devices of irony, personification, and theme were alive and dancing a jig in my house.) I walked over to Gray’s room and looked on his bureau.  This was staring back at meimg_1571

See, life is like the hour glass on the bureau.  Every day is a sand crystal. (See what I did there with the metaphor?) But, unlike what Olivia did this morning, we can’t just flip the glass over and start from the beginning and have an endless supply of days to enjoy.  And, the days go by. They go by whether we make the most of them or not. Whether we are happy or not.  They even go by in the midst of our deepest despair and bring us to a new place in time every day.

So, while we can’t simply turn back the clock, we can make the most of every day.  We can actually live in the moment–even the sad, crazy, hectic, stressful ones–because one day, the last sand crystal will fall through the glass.  And, there won’t be a way to turn the glass around.  And, one day, when you are in your daughter’s room, you’ll be struck with the fact that the glass is half full and that isn’t always a good thing.  Kids grow up so fast and one day it is Valentine’s Day and you tell them to stand in the special place to take their annual picture.  They walk to the couch all “teen like” and you look through the lens of the camera.  You see thisimg_1574

But, when you go to upload the pictures, you realize that picture was just sand crystals that have long since passed through the narrow opening.  You know your children are now teenagers and the rituals of Valentine’s Day’s past are no longer current.  They want to get to school or the guitar lesson or the library (ok, wishful thinking on that one).

The moral of the story isn’t to tell you not to shop at Hobby Lobby. 🙂 The moral of my story is that life realizations strike us at the weirdest and most mundane times.  Best to pay attention when they are telling you something or the lesson might just slip through your fingers like the sands in that hour glass.


Our Lupus Journey…getting over the hump…and staying there

Oh, hi. Thanks for coming back to read about our voyage through this abyss called Lupus and all of it’s wonderful complications.  I didn’t write yesterday because my son lost his fidget spinner (fidget spinner.com in case you want to see what it is) and I literally moved his full size mattress off the bed to look for it and then put it back on the trundle.  I pulled my back out for nothing because the toy wasn’t there.  But, I digress.

We were discussing the devastation of the diagnosis of any chronic illness and the different complications that can arise–in Olivia’s case, blood clots.  It takes an incredible team of doctors along with strong support from your tribe to conquer the physical and emotional toll serious illness takes on your body.  As Olivia began to recover, she participated in home bound tutoring so she wouldn’t fall behind in school.  I am happy to report she has maintained straight A’s and made National Junior Honor Society all while dealing with the monster in the background.  Also, our family joined a wonderful support program at Hasbro Children’s Hospital called TALC which stands for The Adolescent Leadership Council.  An amazing group of chronically ill teens and their parents meet monthly to eat dinner and discuss topics that are relevant to coping with a chronic illness as a teen or a parent.

We were going along status quo until my warrior went to the allergist.  We had tests and then blood tests which showed an Ig E mediated response to peanuts.  In other words, this poor kid has developed peanut, tree nut, and several other food allergies. We carry this around now wherever we go. A hiccup,  really.  Perception is everything so maybe if we view it as a hiccup on the road to recovery then maybe it will take some of the shock out of it.img_1192Ok, so fast forward a little bit.  We had wonderful holidays, Olivia was medication compliant, we kept every doctor appointment, and got all of her labs drawn at the specified times.  Which brings me to today, February 8, 2017.  We had clinic this morning.  We met with her wonderful rheumatologist and nephrologist and they informed us that her lab work indicates that Olivia is in remission.  It took eight long, grueling, heart wrenching, emotionally and physically draining months, but, WE DID IT!! This is Olivia Friday night going to a PC Friars hockey game with her dad.

img_9817There are no guarantees and Lupus is unpredictable –it could come back at any time without warning.  But, right now, we will celebrate.  We will thank God and all of our wonderful family and friends who helped us through this awful maze.  Thank you for taking the tour of our journey so far.  I don’t know the topic for next time yet…I’ve learned to take one day at a time.

The Beginning of Our Lupus Journey


Hello and thanks for stopping by the blog. My name is Beth and my daughter is Olivia.  I would like to begin by bringing you up to speed on our life with Lupus.  I will try to be as compact as possible but still give you the basics in case you are experiencing some similar challenge in your life today.  We were cruising along life’s highway when, at the beginning of last summer, Olivia began to feel sick and exhausted.  After collapsing after school the week before summer vacation, we rushed her to the Hasbro Children’s Hospital  ER where doctors conducted a multitude of tests and discovered she has SLE Lupus and Lupus nephritis. (Hasbro ROCKS, by the way!) We stayed for five days and she had a kidney biopsy to see which class of lupus nephritis afflicts her.

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